There is one item that is consistent in all of our lives that is also consistently difficult and often intimidating: Change. There are small and large changes; there are short-term and long-term changes; there are temporary and permanent changes. Change has been and always will be. There are many situations in which we can’t stop it, the Change will come to be. The best we can hope to do is Accept and Embrace Change.
Forest Fires, a Healthy Change & Rebirth for the Forest. Photo: Takeaway
We’ve talked about the beauty and advantages of Making a Change. It’s amazing when you can re-invent yourself through Change to become a better you. But now we’re not talking about self-change, we’re talking about external change.
We’re now talking about embracing a Change that you don’t have control over. These external changes can sometimes be very difficult to adapt to, such as: you get laid off; a loved one passes away; your landlord kicks you out; your significant other breaks up with you.
Now obviously there are great external changes as well: you get a promotion; you win a contest; you meet a new, great person; you win an award. There are a million great things that can happen at any given moment, but we won’t focus on them here – I’m confident that you’re able to Accept and Embrace awesome, beautiful Change.
But how can we work to accept a ‘bad’ change, and why should we?
Let me first say that everything is impermanent. Nothing will stay as it currently is forever. The Earth’s tectonic plates shift, mountains erode, and even our sun will eventually burn out. Your life will experience many changes. That’s just the rule, it’s part of the plan, and it will be. So why would we waste energy trying to deny the inevitable?
Try as hard as you can to make sure that tomorrow never arrives. You can earnestly try and put all of your effort in, but tomorrow will show up, just as it’s planned to, and there’s nothing we can do about it. So instead of always wasting our energy denying or resenting these changes, we need to try to look at the positives.
Here in the southern hemisphere winter is arriving. Just this weekend we turned back the clocks and it is now dark when I arrive home. This is obviously less-than-ideal, but it’s also part of they cycle. Plants die, leaves fall, and it’s part of the process. Rather than resenting the change I’m more concerned with adapting to it as quickly as possible and becoming accustomed to this new season, that’s all I can do.
Also, today is a co-workers last day working with me. She is leaving to look for a new path, and while I’m sad to see her go, I’m more focused on rooting her on and wishing her the best.
These are small examples of change and are much easier to rationalize and accept than losing your home to a natural disaster, for example, but with every change comes the chance to reinvent yourself.
I recently read an interview with Brandy Mychals on Skip Prichard’s page. She was planning to work in communications when she was involved in a freak car accident, derailing her career plans. She then got involved in chiropractics and was doing well until another very serious auto accident happened. She lost the ability to read for seven years and had to essentially start her life from scratch.
She ended up persevering and wrote a successful, award winning book named “How to Read a Client from Across the Room”. She has done very well for herself and seems to have found her calling, which may not have occurred had her path never been changed for her by external forces. Certainly she’s more resilient than she would’ve been without these hardships in her life.
Sometimes the decision isn’t up to us, and when that’s the case, the only thing we can do is accept our new world as quickly as possible. All we can do is reevaluate, adapt and keep moving forward. When these things happen to us the best we can do is Accept and Embrace Change.